“…no doubt it would be declared illegal…”

– “… no doubt it would be declared illegal, like everything else women wanted to do without men.”  Our History in New York, Linsey Abrams

Women’s Work, Kari Aguila

An interesting novel, worth the read!

“Think about how different our world is going to be when this generation of boys grows up, having been allowed to grow into whole, good, decent men. Nobody is going to tell them that they have to go through life being some stupid caricature of masculinity anymore. They can talk about feelings and beauty and love, and still be respected. We haven’t taken away your freedom, we’ve given it to you. You should be thanking us.” p127

Thank you, Diana E. H. Russell

The Politics of Rape was one of the first (of a great many) works about rape that I read.

See what else she wrote at http://radicalprofeminist.blogspot.com/2020/08/diana-e-h-russell-6-november-1938-28.html

(And thanks, Julian, not only for that list but for your comments about the NYT obituary. Sigh.)

I keep forgetting that …

So I just received a rejection letter for a story I’d submitted to the SciPhi Journal in which the editor reprimanded me, saying that “all pieces of writing for SPJ must have at least a grain of plausibility.” When I pointed out that I’d referenced Elliot Rodger and Alex Minassian (as premise/trigger), he replied saying he hadn’t heard of either one.

I guess I keep forgetting that since words like sexism and misogyny aren’t used on primetime tv or in mainstream newspapers, most people (in the U.S. and Canada, at least), because their entire worldview is formed by those two media, aren’t familiar with the concepts. (And it keeps shocking me when I remember that.)

A wry smile for those over fifty or so

“Women’s magazines are typically associated with check-out lines in grocery stores, where they sport loud headlines that either promise a “beach body” in ten days, or describe exciting new ways to please a man in bed. (Back in the old days, all you had to do was show up.)” Erica Verrillo

The Pro-Life Position You Don’t Hear

Male privilege

Excerpts from https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/06/male-privilege-female-top-surgery-workplace

“After returning to teaching, I started to receive very little, if any, pushback when I said no. This was especially the case with students. Within academia, it is not an uncommon belief that students make more requests (for grade changes, deadline extensions, and so on) of female-presenting professors. In my case, requests for extensions and grade changes decreased, and for the few that did occur, there was zero pushback to my response. It’s like I have a new superpower: the first time I say no, it is heard. Similarly, I rarely have to ask for something twice. I also experience fewer interruptions, and there are more apologies for taking up my time. Language in emails to me is more deferential than it has ever been before. I am no longer a McDonald’s where students place their orders. …

“In research that specifically addresses transgender men in the workplace, sociologist Kristen Schilt has found that a majority of her respondents report receiving some type of post-transition advantage at work, including gaining authority, respect and recognition for hard work, and gaining economic opportunities and status.Respondents spoke to how men can get away with more, and are given the benefit of the doubt, while hard-working women are ignored and their work is unrecognized.

What harm does it do?

So I’ve received a 1/5 review of Gender Fraud: a fiction at Goodreads by someone claiming, basically, TERF!!! Expected. Sigh.

But she did ask a question that I should have been able to answer, which was ‘What harm does it do if a transwoman wants to call herself a woman?’

Well, here’s the answer:

from Jack Holland’s A Brief History of Misogyny

(All quotes are from Jack Holland’s A Brief History of Misogyny)

“It was a battle for the ultimate mechanism of control within a woman’s body—her reproductive cycle. For a woman, this right is the most crucial of all, and the key to achieving real autonomy.  Misogyn denies her autonomy; her subordination depends on the lack of it.”  (p237)  Well-put.

“Before, men had women more or less at their mercy in deciding whether or not to employ condoms, the most common contraceptive device.  In theory, of course, a woman could refuse to have intercourse with a man unless he wore one, but in practice men bullied, coerced, bllackmailed or otherwise pressurized women into taking risks for the sake of the man’s pleasure.”  (p238)  Which is why men should never be trusted with any sort of competing goods decision: they think that their ten seconds of pleasure (or, as is often the case, relief) outweighs a woman’s nine months of pregnancy, seven-plus hours of labour (with various physical injuries, temporary and permanent, up to and including death) (as well as the emotional pain due to forced motherhood), five years of round-the-clock vigilance and nurturing, and another ten years of care. 

“When I told people I was writing a history of misogyny, I got two distinct responses and they were divided along gender lines.  From women came an expression of eager curiosity about what I had found.  But from those men who knew what the word ‘misogyny’ meant—”  (p268)  Stop right there.  Because that pretty much says it all.

“What history teaches us about misogyny can be summed up in four words: pervasive, persistent, pernicious, and protean.” (p270)  Again, well-put.

“Had the victims of [Gary Ridgeway’s] murderous rampage been Jews or African Americans, there would have been a national alarm sounded, and acres of print covered with soul-searching questions about the state of race relations in the United States as we enter a new millennium.  But the actions of a Ridgeway, or a Jack the Ripper, are usually left to a psychiatrist to explain.  Their urge to kill women is seen as an aberration when in truth it is simply an intensification of a commonplace prejudice.” (p271)

“25 Ways I Was Granted White Male Privilege After I Transitioned…”

A must-read.

We really need BOOKS about these experiences. Norah Vincent’s Self-Made Man and Kristen Schilt’s Just One of the Guys … MORE please!!