Oct 28 2026
Highly recommended.
Best prologue ever.
“… you’ll always be a hero, just for doing what a illion women do everywhere every day.” p141
“I realize then that he is never, ever going to understand. That, in fact, he doesn’t want to understand because it will mean giving up what he wants.” …
Oct 27 2026
She pushed the chair against the wall. It was a sturdy armed chair; that’s why she preferred this motel. Then she helped him, still a bit groggy from the drink she’d doctored at the bar, from the doorway to the chair. Using zip ties—impossible to loosen, let alone break—she lashed his wrists to the …
Oct 15 2026
It was inevitable.
By 2035, almost overnight, all of my classes were two-thirds female, one-third male. We’d finally achieved the critical mass I thought wouldn’t ever happen. Correction. I thought wouldn’t happen in time. I was middle-aged when the most powerful county in the world elected for President not the former Secretary of …
Oct 06 2026
“We all wield different portfolios of knowledge. We have different values, different priorities, and different understandings of all that unfolds around us.” Neil DeGrasse Tyson
Yes. There. That first one. My life-long error.
I have assumed that we have different values and different priorities, and I’ve been prepared to argue …
Oct 06 2026
HIGHLY RECOMMENDED
It took me until p79 to see where this was going—the title should’ve clued me in sooner, but—without spoilers, let me just say that compared to her husband, the husbands’ behavior at the dinner party (p91) is so … stark. And therefore so telling.
The boxed online chats are so …
Sep 29 2026
About a month after, they came to get him.
“Hello, is there a Rob Ellis here?”
He heard the polite voice at the door.
“Yeah,” his mother replied. “Rob!” she called up the stairs.
Rob came down the stairs and warily approached the two people standing at the door.
Sep 23 2026
Great read! Some quotes and comments …
“He tosses the cap onto the floor.” p2
As soon as he takes a bottle from the garage fridge and tosses the cap onto the floor, I hated him. Is he going to pick up the cap later? Clean up after himself? Don’t think so. …
Sep 16 2026
We got so tired of hearing that. Men need sex. There were so many iterations, so many variations …
In 1943, Maslow, in his hierarchy of needs, included sex among the physiological needs that must be satisfied before anything else. Unfortunately, his theory, along with an unforgettable pyramid illustration, became accepted as fact, …
Sep 08 2026
https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-is-patriarchy-so-obsessed-with
“We tell women deprived of sleep and support in the postpartum period that their exhaustion must be due to their crazy woman hormones. When girls enter puberty—and the world of dehumanization and male abuse it brings—we pretend their distress is due to vague “puberty hormones.” And when, after a lifetime of exploitation, …
Jul 18 2026
“We don’t occupy their imaginations the way they occupy ours.” Black scientist about his white colleagues (from the movie “Black Cake”)
Yeah. Now imagine that ten-fold for a female scientist.
