Reading In Our Time, Susan Brownmiller

In In Our Time, Susan Brownmiller, the author of the ground-breaking Against Our Will tell what it was like, the second-wave feminist movement in the 1960s and 1970s. Highly recommended.

p2 re jobs for men and women

p5-6 what it was like before abortion was legal

“Women the world over are required to modify their behavior because of things that men fear and do.” p13

p35-39 the Miss America event
(I was reading this chapter the day I paddled past a group of young people having fun on the beach, one young woman wearing a thong ‘bathing suit’ – I almost pulled over to say something, but my god, where to begin; a week later, I paddled past the same spot, similar group, the young men in board shorts—not codpiece thongs—having lots of fun splashing around and swimming, the young women almost naked and very limited in their movements, walking across the sand in tiny steps as if they’d just learned how to walk, waving their hands as they stepped into the water as if they were afraid … and I got so fucking angry … it was all for nothing, the 60s and 70s, what those women did …it’s like we need to start women’s liberation all over again, start consciousness-raising groups again) (read Alix Kates Shulman’s Memoirs of an Ex-Prom Queen)

“The personal is political! Housework is political. Abortion is political. Standards of feminine beauty are political. Women’s oppression is political. Sexual satisfaction is political. A re-evaluation of male-female relations is political.” p45

Ruth Hershberger (Adam’s Rib, 1948) must have felt the same way about the 1950s. Again and again and again … how many times do we have to ‘discover’ all this shit??

about Naomi Weisstein, Ph.D. from Harvard, first in her class, “wound up in the tiny psychology department at Loyola after a humiliating round of job interviews punctuated by ‘Who did your research?’ and’ ‘How can a little girl like you teach a great big class of men?’ p51

the same old same old … Women saying simply “Women must take control of our bodies … We must define our own issues. We will take the struggle to our homes, to our jobs, to the streets.” and the men went berserk, screaming “Take her off the stage and fuck her!” “Take off your clothes!” “I’ll go to the streets with you. Down an alley!”
Again with the sexualizing us to reduce us. (Which is why it is sooooo annoying when women voluntarily sexualize themselves.

In the 1970s, Good Housekeeping, Seventeen, and so many others were run by men. In The Ladies’ Home Journal, more than half of the articles were written by men. p83-4
So if you read these magazines, you’re listening to a man telling you how to look, how to act …
So articles you’d never get to read … “How to Get a Divorce”, “How to Have an Orgasm”, What to Tell your Draft-age Son”, “How Detergents Harm our Rivers and Streams” …
“… men speak to woman through the bias of their male supremacist concepts” p85
[…the magazine’ purports to serve the interests of mothers and housewives” but doesn’t provide free daycare facilities on the premises for its employees’ children. p85
And still, 55 years later, so many ads in women’s magazines degrade women.
And still, 55 years later, so many “celebrity articles [are] oriented toward the preservation of youth…” p86

In 1971, an abortion ban challenge, Abele v. Markle, the judge ruled that the 850 plaintiffs lacked legal standing because they were not pregnant and thus had “an inusiufficient personal stake in the outcome” p118 (but read the whole chapter)
unfuckingbelievable.
Roraback had to actually argue that all women of childbearing age had a direct personal stake in the outcome.

…the classic Women’s Liberation position: “Pregnancy to a woman is one of the most determinative aspects of life. It disrupts her body, it disrupts her education, it disrupts her employment, and it often disrupts her entire family life.” p130

“… the internal damage to people’s psyches that resulted from years of conforming to low expectations” p145

“Lester Bernstein, my old boss in Nation … I’d thought he had understood my frustration and boredom. But now he inquired with puzzled sincerity, ‘When you worked here, Susan [Brownmiller] did you have ambition?’ / For two years not a week had gone by without my asking if I could ‘do more’. He hadn’t noticed.” p145-6
So they’re not cruel. They’re just clueless?
Even so, that doesn’t absolve them. If you are in a position of responsibility, you’d better NOT be clueless.

re Shere Hite’s The Hite Report – the all-male sales department hated the book so much, it got a small first printing p254

The Psychosis of Jocks

And another thing (from Picoult’s Nineteen Minutes): the guy who considered his football game to be far more important than knowing whether or not his girlfriend was pregnant.  Not unusual.  Most men worship football.

Guys, especially jocks—you have been brainwashed.  It’s a fucking GAME.  A game of tag with a game of catch.  To see which side ends up with the highest score.  That’s all.*

Compared to any one of being pregnant, giving birth, and having complete responsibility for the survival (and, hopefully, the flourishing) of another human being, your little football game is not even on the same scale.  To think otherwise suggests a disconnect from reality akin to psychosis.

Why don’t women say more, a lot more, about how fucking important it is?  How consequential?

Some do.  And get dismissed.  Because, same old same old, anything a woman does must be both unimportant and inconsequential. 

And the others?  They’ve been drugged by their bodies to forget, or at least minimize, the pain: of pregnancy (a condition that lasts for nine months compared to a mere ninety minutes); of giving birth (a condition that can last for days and can easily be more painful than tearing your ACL, several times) (yeah, the baby tears its way out).  And they’ve been similarly brainwashed, not to inflate but to minimize the consequences (goodbye bladder control and fifteen years of plans and aspirations). *Unless you’re of the 1% of high school players who end up playing pro.  Then it’s a job; you get paid.  So, consequential.  But need I point out that far less than 1% of women get paid to be pregnant?  And those who do get paid get maybe $20,000?  For the nine months of being pregnant and the twenty-four hours of giving birth.  Compared $5 million.  For 14 games.  That’s about $350,000 for an hour and a half.  Yes, there’s the training.  But women are pregnant 24 hrs/day.  Men don’t train 24 hrs/day.

Maryann (substack) on women’s health

FemmeHealth Ventures Alliance

Only 12% of AI researchers are women.

We are training algorithms to diagnose female bodies using data created by men who’ve never had a period, never been pregnant, never felt dismissed by a doctor who said their pain was “stress.”

Meanwhile 60% of women say doctors don’t take their health seriously.

And now we are automating that bias.

https://substack.com/@femmehealthventures/note/c-126178962

Research into male/female differences: is a redo required?

Does any research into the differences between male and female distinguish between females who have experienced pregnancy and childbirth and those who have not?  It’s doubtful, since most research is conducted by men, to whom making such a distinction would not even occur.

But there are permanent changes to the brain as a result of pregnancy and childbirth.  “Gray matter becomes more concentrated” and “Activity increases in regions that control empathy, anxiety, and social interaction.”  There are also changes in the amygdala, “which helps process memory and drives emotional reactions like fear, anxiety, and aggression” (https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/what-happens-to-a-womans-brain-when-she-becomes-a-mother/384179/)

So are the much touted differences between male and female differences between male and only mothering females?  If so, that entire area of research needs to be redone.

Unpregnant (the movie)

The movie titled Unpregnant has been on my list for a while, but I’ve just subscribed to CRAVE.

One, I was appalled to see that the movie is categorized as a comedy.

I suspect the categorizing is done not by CRAVE staff, but according to the movie’s submitted metadata, which means it’s the writer, director and/or producer who are calling it a comedy.  And I suspect that whoever is responsible for the category identification is a man.

Because only a man would find it funny that

– a teenager finds herself pregnant because the condom broke, finds her whole life about to change direction in what she may well consider to be a horrible way—all her plans, her aspirations, her goals, no longer possible

– she discovers that the nearest place at which an abortion without parental consent is available is almost a thousand miles away; she doesn’t have the money to get there

– she discovers that the teenage boy knew the morning after that the condom had broken, but did not tell the young woman; if he had, she could’ve obtained the morning after pill—problem solved

Have I gotten to the funny part yet?  Where are the giggles?

As I watch the movie, I see that yes, there are comedic moments.  The movie becomes a road trip between previously estranged friends.  But who would decide to write a comedy based on such traumatic premises.  Again, only a man.

So I was surprised that two of the three writers are women.  What the hell?

Shame on the three of you for perpetuating the clueless view that pregnancy and abortion are no big deal.

So when abortion is prohibited altogether in ALL fifty states, oh well.  No big deal.  Right?

(And to think people have DIED to secure your right to decide for yourself whether or not to reproduce.)

from Slow Motion: changing masculinities, changing men, Lynne Segal

“The question of why it is men, and most often fathers or step-fathers, who sexually abuse children is not addressed [in recent books on fathering].”  p55

“And far from criticizing women for failing to satisfy men’s needs, feminists … question whence these ‘needs’ derive, and whether these needs themselves should not be seen as the problem—the problem of men.”  p55

“As Andrew Hacker suggests, wives who work ‘are not the cause of divorce so much as their husbands who still expect to hold center stage.'” p99

“Retrospectively, it is startling to realize that rape and men’s violence towards women became a serious social and political issue only through feminist attention to them.”  p234

“According to Phillips and Taylor, the work which women do tends to be low in status and reward simply because it is women and not men who do it.  Ben Birnbaum has illustrated this from his study of the clothing industry: the same type of machine work was classified as skilled when performed by men, and semi-skilled when performed by women.” p299

“Women [can] not share equally with men at work until men share equally with them in the home.”  p304

a few of the many insights in Holly Bourne’s When We Were Friends

“That song [“Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow” by Carole King) is the most true song that’s ever been written.”  p175

“Speaking so loudly [about football] and with such arrogant authority that everyone else sort of had to listen.”  p219

“Is it just me or is it crazy that football chat is taken seriously when it’s basically astrology for men? … They never have mercury going into retrograde as a news segment, do they?”  p220

“I wanted him to want me to stay.  I would’ve stayed all night happily, if only he’d asked me one question about myself and listened to the answer.”  p240

And p401-2.  All of it, every line.

from Jodi Picoult’s By Any Other Name

“… he’d said the main character in her play was unrelatable, because she made questionable choices. At the time, he was producing a revival of Sweeney Todd, about a barber with anger-management issues who murdered his patrons.” p163

The APA, Gender, and Sex – great post

some nice bits from James Tiptree, Jr.

“Women have no rights, Don, except what men allow us.  Men are more aggressive and powerful, and they run the world. …”

“Men and women aren’t different species, Ruth.  Women do everything men do.”

“Do they?” .. She mutters something that could be “My Lai” and looks away.  “All the endless wars …”  Her voice is a whisper.  “All the huge authoritarian organizations for doing unreal things.  Men live to struggle against each other; we’re just part of the battlefields.  It’ll never change unless you change the whole world. …”

“For Christ’s sake, Ruth, they’re aliens!” [when she asks to go with them]”I’m used to it,” she says absently. …

from “The Women Men Don’t See,” James Tiptree, Jr.

*

“Intelligence simply hasn’t evolved there,” they reported.  “Social structure is at the level of crude incubation ritual with some migratory clanning.  Frankly, it looks unnestworthy.  A pesky lot of mammals have clobbered up the place with broken shells.  Of interest only to students of pseudo-evolution.”

from “All the Kinds of Yes,” James Tiptree, Jr.

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