Apr 19

How to be Successful without Hurting Men’s Feelings, Sarah Cooper

A light fun read with a few great punches:

– re the perfect voice pitch for women … too high and you’re shrill, too low and you’re gruff, just right “not yet achieved by any woman”

– chap 2 – lots of ‘When a man says X, it’s Y, but when a woman says X, it’s Z’

– “Try to keep your pregnancy a secret until your child is at least eighteen years of age.”

– How to say ‘yes’: I’d love to!  How to say ‘no’: Sure.

– the illustration on p99 is excellent (about getting interrupted – how to respond in a threatening way, and in a non-threatening way)

– chap 7 – really insightful – and I wonder how did men get so good at that?  esp if they’re supposedly so bad at communication?  Ah.  They’re bad at speaking the truth, but good at manipulation because they’ve been steeped in that culture all their lives.  So it’s not like they’re applying all the strategies they learned in The Art of War; it’s probably unconscious—they’re just saying the shit that all the guys they know and hang around with say.

– another great chapter (Men’s Achievement Stickers)

– and finally, p187: a comparison between a toddler and a CEO – I love it!

Apr 14

The Sexual Politics of Meat – Carol J. Adams

Highly recommended. The title says it all.

Among a whole lot of ‘worth mentioning’, I’ll mention the reference to Irving Fisher’s study (p.43) involving meat-eating athletes, vegetarian athletes, and vegetarian non-athletes. Vegetarians, whether athletes or not, had the greatest endurance (as measured by three strength tests). “Even the maximum record of the flesh-eaters was barely more than have the average for the flesh-abstainers.”

And it got me thinking again about why men suddenly do the cooking when it involves barbecue. I’d thought simply it was because one barbecues outdoors. Women=indoors. Men=outdoors. But now, I’m seeing too it’s fire. Danger! And, of course, meat. Status. A perfect trinity.

Apr 12

Leigh Anne Jasheway – brilliant!

I’ve recently discovered the brilliant and hilarious work of Leigh Anne Jasheway.

Her’s a great starting point: “20 Headlines from an Alternate Universe“

But take a look through (ALL OF) her other posts!

Apr 09

Invisible Women – Caroline Criado Perez

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men is a must-read.

(And although she soft-pedals this, surely the persistent failure to consider women is evidence of what they think of us: we’re unimportant, we’re not worth consideration. Or perhaps it’s simply evidence of their persistent failure to consider anyone but themselves. Either way …)

Mar 14

Male vs. Female re sexual offences

“Around 13,000 males are in prison for sexual offences compared to fewer than 150 females. “

(according to a post at https://fairplayforwomen.com/stop-misreporting-sex/ about England and Wales)

Says a lot, doesn’t it.

Mar 12

about trans’women’ competing in women’s sports

“One TIM actually tried to explain that as someone truly dysphoric, he’d NEVER want to be on a girl’s team. Beating them all and crushing them with ease would only underline his male body, not validate his feminine identity. Mr. Be Kind didn’t understand this and asked why he wouldn’t want to be on a team with girls who shared his “gender identity” and the TIM added that he’d feel ashamed for cheating girls, especially with his male body. And that’s a very good point- I don’t believe that men who enter women’s sports are dysphoric in the least. They’re very happy with their male bodies.”

from https://www.ovarit.com/o/GenderCritical/18221/how-come-it-s-never-on-trans-people-to-be-kind

Mar 03

God and abortion

The DWR Sunday Religious Disservice – God and Embryos

Mar 01

“When people say ‘trans women are women’…”

https://deadwildroses.com/2021/01/

Feb 28

on women having kids or not (from Joan Smith’s Different for Girls)

“If having children and grandchildren is so universally rewarding, why is it selfish to deny oneself the pleasure of parenting? If, on the other hand, bringing up children is an arduous task … why do [people] feel sorry for people who don’t do it”? (88)

“… the real objection to women who decide not to have children …: if women don’t conform to the expected pattern — if, crucially, they aren’t all looking after children for at least part of their adult lives — what else might they do? Pursue their own interests? Compete with men? …” (90)

“… have you ever seen a headline announcement that ‘working dads are blamed for children’s failures’? … (107)

Feb 26

Why won’t men shoot free throws like …

See article here at a great site for, of, men examining masculinity (it’s about time!).

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