What I learned about men by posting a ‘For Sale’ ad on Kijiji

The ad said $100.*  Men offered $70, $80, $90.  Every woman who replied to the ad accepted the stated price.

The ad indicated my location, implying pick-up.  Men asked whether I’d deliver it (all or part of the way) or simply said my location was too far away.  The closest a woman got to that kind of response was ‘Are you ever in North Bay?’  (And the woman who bought it drove the distance deemed by several men to be ‘too far’.)

The ad said nothing about disassembling the item.  Men asked whether I would do that (so they could more easily fit it in their vehicle).  No woman asked for that.

So.  Does this mean that …

Men are more assertive than women?

Men are more demanding that women?

Men feel more entitled (to whatever it is they want) (and maybe even to things they don’t want) (just because) than women?

Men themselves use language loosely (they seldom mean what they say or say what they mean) and so assume others do as well?

So if $100 could mean $70, then $30,000/year could mean $35,000 and ‘no benefits’ could mean ‘Okay, a dental plan’. 

And ‘No’ could mean ‘Yes.’

* The ad was for a chair that was, as I stated in the ad, $1200 new.  I was selling it unpacked and assembled, used once (I’d bought it to have room for my dog to snuggle beside me; she didn’t like it).  For three years, I ran my ad, eventually asking $500 obo.  Best offer (from the woman) was $250.  So, further, men are more likely than women to want, to try to get, something for nothing?  To want, to try, to ‘take advantage’ of the other person, to come out a winner, make the other person a loser?

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