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A huge insight late in life

“We all wield different portfolios of knowledge.  We have different values, different priorities, and different understandings of all that unfolds around us.”  Neil DeGrasse Tyson

Yes.  There.  That first one.  My life-long error.

I have assumed that we have different values and different priorities, and I’ve been prepared to argue …

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The Husbands, Chandler Baker – quotes and comments

HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

It took me until p79 to see where this was going—the title should’ve clued me in sooner, but—without spoilers, let me just say that compared to her husband, the husbands’ behavior at the dinner party (p91) is so … stark.  And therefore so telling.

The boxed online chats are so …

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Harper Ford on menopause and wellness scams

Looking for humorous fiction, I’ve just read Harper Ford’s Hot (not bothered) and Live, Laugh, and Leave Me Alone. 

In both cases—unfortunately, in my opinion—the levity of the covers and the prose obscure a great treatment of a serious issue, menopause and wellness scams, respectively. 

Both recommended—more for the gravity than for …

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“Home for Unwed Fathers” (short story from Fighting Words)

About a month after, they came to get him.

“Hello, is there a Rob Ellis here?”

He heard the polite voice at the door.

“Yeah,” his mother replied.  “Rob!” she called up the stairs. 

Rob came down the stairs and warily approached the two people standing at the door.

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“Some men don’t like me” Dina Honour

Great read.

https://dinahonour.substack.com/p/some-men-dont-like-me

“Violence against women and children is legal. We just pretend otherwise.” Zawn Villines

https://zawn.substack.com/p/violence-against-women-and-children

“That’s because in patriarchy, nothing trumps a man’s right not to be inconvenienced. His right to act as he wishes will always come before the right of women and children to continue living.”

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“Women don’t leave for ‘no reason.’ Men just think women shouldn’t be allowed to leave.” by Zawn Villines

https://zawn.substack.com/p/the-myth-of-the-wife-who-leaves-without-a7c

Such an excellent piece. Read it several times. Slowly.

They Never Learn, Layne Fargo – quotes and comments

Great read!  Some quotes and comments …

“He tosses the cap onto the floor.”  p2

As soon as he takes a bottle from the garage fridge and tosses the cap onto the floor, I hated him.  Is he going to pick up the cap later?  Clean up after himself?  Don’t think so.  …

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re choking during sex

https://theequitablehome.substack.com/p/choking-during-sex-went-from-rare

“T]elling a young man he might give a girl a brain injury was not sufficient reason for him to stop, but telling him it might land him in court was.”

Women, understand this. Remember this.

And this:

“So: choking is strangulation. Strangulation causes brain damage that leaves no bruise …

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